It may be that cigarettes cause a morning cough and yes it may be that emphysema is a result of tobacco use, but the thought process of an individual when aligned with a burning fag is unquestionably one of the most valuable aspects of cigarettes that are not to fall to waste. Cigarettes are less fattening and less addictive than Coke I might add (the cool drink not the drug...)
Why this sudden defending of smoking you may ask? Well, it was this morning with a lit smoke in my right hand and a cup of ambition in my left that the wisdom fairy came and bestowed on me some logic... And fortuantely for the little queen that I am, one of my gayest of idols has already made a tribute to this post when she sang; "What's love got to do got to do with it?" (You sang that in you head didnt you? Haha, I knew it)He's off his mind... it's over with him.
Stop it and bare with me...
So Tina Turner flashed into my mind this morning whilst trying to gather a little bit of brain activity. This song (which is quite annoying I might add when stuck in your head) popped up and started an infinite loop in my already chaotic brain. Trying to explain my brain's way of thinking will require a scientific study in which probably even the theory of relativity will be declared null. Due to a course that is not quite clear to even myself I concluded, after starting on Tina, that one does not in fact marry for love...
It's atrocious!!! How dare you blaspheme like that!!!
Calm the fuck down. I do have a valid point that goes with it...
Firstly I want to get one thing quite clear. I believe absolutely and resolutely in the sanctity of marriage. I support marriage and I myself would like to get married someday. However, with Tina Turner echoing in my head, I did manage to figure out for myself that, in order for us to get married it takes more and NEEDS more than just love as fuel.
Take the following into consideration: When one get's married to another person, one commits oneself to a LIFETIME with that person... This is not a choice to be taken lightly...
It feel to me sometimes that people forget about the lifetime part. We all love people in our lives and we all have people that we want to keep in our lives forever, and that in itself is very noble, but are you willing to alter you future completely for that sake?
People nowadays have a terrible tendency to get married very young and early... The worst excuse for this I have ever heard was when a woman told me that she wants to be a young and hot mom... I nearly fucking died. When getting married one says that you are willing to create a life with someone other than yourself and then STICK TO THAT LIFE that you have created... Sounds a little more intimidating now doesn't it?
Creating this life is not easy... Creating this life involves having a financially secure and steady future. To raise children in a house that is filled with love. To take care of these children you so desperately want and to ensure that your spawn isn't one day the spawn of satan...So here's my problem... Why do we get married to the first person we see because we "love" them? Love is not the only factor that we need to keep in mind when vowing to another person an entire life of commitment. We are vowing to stick to someone even when there is no money and no good times... we vow to stay with that person even after they have angered us. We vow to stay with that person when they are no longer capable of taking care of themselves.
Therefore, I do not care if I am called a snob for wanting a life partner that has a degree and ambition or someone with a steady head on their shoulders, cause at the end of the day when I get married and it has to be forever, why would I force upon myself a life of misery and unhappiness. To make such a life altering decision I will not settle on second best, when I owe myself everything.
Maybe I am a bit snotty for feeling this way, but considering the divorce rate all over the world, I think more people should start thinking like this. At the end of the day, or the marriage when it comes to that, there are more people involved than just you...
And to think... All of this started with a bloody smoke break...
